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Wedding prices

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The video below poses the question, “why are weddings so darn expensive?” It suggests that wedding prices are just plain too high.

But are they?

This video is worth watching because it addresses an important question, something we deal with all the time: why can’t wedding vendors be more transparent in their pricing by listing all their package price on their website?

Price shopping alone can ruin your wedding

The question seems pretty reasonable, except that it has the potential to ruin your wedding day.  If you select vendors on price alone, and not on quality, reputation, creativity and flexibility, you’re going to end up with vendors who aren’t a good fit for you for all kinds of reasons.

That’s what so often happens when companies list prices: prospective brides shop on price alone, which is dangerous.

Let’s use the example of an avocado, like they do in the video above. Unlike wedding services, avocados are a commodity, which means they are especially price sensitive.

You wouldn’t pay $8 for an avocado, as they suggest in the video above, especially when the national average is $1.18 per avocado.  On the other hand, you might pay $2 if it is organically grown, because that is important to you. By the same token, $1.18 may be too much if the offerings on your store shelf are overripe.

You get the idea. All avocados aren’t the same, just as all entertainment companies aren’t the same.

Queen City DJs love price questions!

Queen City DJs love price questions when it comes time for you to plan wedding entertainment. The video offers good advice: offer potential vendors a price range that fits your budget, which helps us present you with the options and add-ons right for your style and budget.

Ultimately, no price is a good price if you don’t love the quality of the service you receive. That’s why wedding prices alone are an incomplete metric when it comes to assessing potential vendors. Be sure to include quality, reputation, creativity and flexibility in your considerations.

Queen City DJs is proud of our website. It reflects who we are. Spend a little time on it, beginning with our wedding services page. Check out our planning tools. And then contact us. Nothing beats a phone call (1-513-659-9293) to help you get to know a company and receive the exact info you’re looking for.

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The agony and ecstasy of a destination wedding

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Why in the world would anyone in their right mind want a destination wedding? Traditionalists bristle at such a notion. In fact, there is some serious agony and ecstasy associated with a destination wedding. This blog will fearlessly lay it on the line for you, our faithful readers:

ECSTASY—> Simplicity

You’ll spend less time planning your wedding with a destination wedding.  A lot of wedding couples appreciate the entire stress-free vibe of less planning.  When planning a wedding in the bride’s home town, couples have to make well over 1000 decisions. Each decision is a cause for stress.  Destination weddings at resorts often provide turnkey packages which include an onsite wedding planning consultant which radically reduces stress-causing decisions.

AGONY—> Destination weddings may exclude key family members

Let’s face it, not everyone can afford to haul their entire family off to your destination wedding. You may find yourself deprived of loved ones who you really would like to share in the biggest day of your life.  Even more, family members who would like to come may be resentful that you’re putting them in a position of mortgaging the house to fly off to Timbuktu to indulge your destination wedding fantasy.  Then there is the issue of mobility and age.  Elderly grandparents and aunts may not be up to traveling long distances.

ECSTASY—> Destination weddings may exclude key family members

On the other hand, do you have problematic family members you’d rather not attend your wedding?  Destination weddings are a great way to whittle back your list!

AGONY—> Legal red tape

If you’re getting married in another country, you may have to wrangle with a different language while getting all the proper forms necessary to get married there, especially if you’ve been divorced before.  That’s why destination weddings are more popular with younger couples getting married for the first time.

ECSTASY—> Enjoy a better honeymoon

By combining your ceremony and honeymoon, you may be able to get a package that makes a dream honeymoon location more affordable.

AGONY—>It may ruin your honeymoon

Think about this carefully:  do you want your family hanging around on your honeymoon, because it’s something you may have to deal with if you have a destination wedding.  After all, they may not want to shell out all those bucks just to pack up and jet home the next day.  You may find yourself entertaining Uncle Buck when you’d rather be relaxing in your honeymoon suite.

ECSTASY—> Save money

The way one wedding planner put it, “You get the honeymoon and wedding at the same time for a half the price of what a wedding would cost in the U.S. or Canada,”

AGONY—> You may not be the star of the show

Some resorts schedule lots and lots of weddings in a day.  You may see a lot of other brides and their guests flitting around.  And then there are beach weddings.  How would you feel if the ‘tall and tan and lovely girl from Ipanema’ saunters by while you’re saying your vows and all eyes are on her … and not you?  Just askin’!  Despite their best efforts, resort staffers may not be able to keep the public at bay.

ECSTASY–> Queen City DJs

If you hold your wedding right here in the Cincinnati area, you can enjoy unrivaled wedding entertainment with Queen City DJs! No need to travel halfway across the world!

Is a destination wedding right for you?  For most couples, the agony outweighs the ecstasy.

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10 ugliest celebrity wedding dresses EVER!

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Would you like to have a celebrity wedding?

Think twice about that. Just because celebrities have money doesn’t mean that they have any taste. As evidence, just watch the video above which showcases the 10 ugliest celebrity wedding dresses EVER!

What a waste of money!

The typical bride has to deal with reality, a limited budget. Here’s the good news. You can celebrate like a celebrity without spending buckets of money. In fact, you’ve probably got more taste than a whole lot of celebrities.

No where is your taste more on display than with the entertainment. Entertainment makes the event. We can taylor the entertainment to suit your personality, your sense of style, and your taste. And packages can be customized to fit your budget.

Forget about a celebrity wedding!

When you think about it, weddings are really about families and friends who love you and want to share in your celebration. There’s no need to try to impress people who really care about you with a wedding dress you can’t afford.

Instead, throw a great party you CAN afford, and entertainment makes the party.

Forget about a celebrity wedding. Make your celebration distinctly you with customized entertainment from Queen City DJs. Check out our wedding planning tools to get started now.

DJ integrity

DJ integrity is everything

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Do you like the owner of  the DJ company you’re considering for your wedding? If not, move on. DJ integrity is paramount to a successful wedding. The first vibe you pick up from a company is often telling.

Trust your instincts.

Don’t look back. Wedding celebrations are special, and entertainment makes the event. If there is something about the personality of the owner of a DJ company company that just doesn’t sit right with you, find someone else.

For the record, that includes me!

Chemistry is important at weddings, and your DJ company has a disproportionate impact on the success of your event. Choose carefully, beginning with an assessment of how well you LIKE and TRUST the owner.

Now how do you do that? You need to make some sort of personal contact.

You can’t do that if you’re merely filling out a form on a website and hitting send. Yes, we’ve got awesome forms right here  and here on our own website.  They’re a start. but better yet, pick up the phone and call.

Do you get a real, live person on the phone, and if not,  how quickly do you get a call back?

And here is the key: how well do they come across on the phone? Are they warm and friendly? Do they listen? Do they come across like they care about your event? Even more, are they excited about your event? Or do you get the sense that they look at you merely as a paycheck?

You can’t beat the personal touch.

As wonderful as modern technology is, it does you no favors by de-personalizing the wedding planning process. Don’t let that happen to you. Pick up the phone and call us at 513-659-9293, because we’d love to talk to you about your event.

Better yet, set up a time to meet in person. This is the ultimate way for you to get to know the person who can make or break your event. This is the ultimate way for you to gauge their integrity, and DJ integrity is everything.

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Celebrity marriage advice. Beware!

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Celebrity marriages don’t always work out so well. So celebrity marriage advice is always a little suspect. But it can be so much fun!

For us ‘little people,’ there are still some nuggets of wisdom worth considering from these larger than life figures. Or at the very least, we’ll get a good laugh.

The notorious actress and sex symbol, Mae West, offered profound advice to future wives:

“Don’t marry a man to reform him – that’s what reform schools are for.”

Comedienne Phyllis Diller’s advice was totally practical:

“Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age – as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight.”

The 18th century German satirist, Georg Christoph Lichtenberg, provides ‘snarky’ advice, to use a 21st century word:

“Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.”

Which leads us to Marilyn Monroe’s advice posted above:

“I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I’m out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”

Everyone is flawed. Everyone is going to have their moments with their spouse. That’s when love actually flourishes, for love isn’t a just feeling. If it were merely a feeling, it could never last.

Love is choice.

It’s a choice to mend fences, even when the love of your life is difficult to handle and you don’t feel like mending fences.

When you hit a rough patch in your relationship like everyone else in recorded history has, you might take some advice from the wisest man who ever lived, according to the Old Testament of the Bible, King Solomon. Writing in the The Book of Proverbs, his advice still resonates three thousand years later:

“He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.”

“He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.”

“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

In other words, guard your relationship by controlling your tongue! Now that’s a celebrity worth listening to!

Ready for more advice? Check out our event planning tools. They make wedding planning so easy.

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Alcohol or no alcohol?

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It got ugly fast. You will quickly understand why you need alcohol wedding guidelines at your wedding.

Uncle Charlie liked his liquor.  And it flowed at his niece’s wedding reception.  Charlie felt as if  he had entered the land of milk and honey.  (That’s a biblical metaphor for what our culture would call a ‘land of plenty.’)

As the party picked up the pace, so did Charlie’s imbibing, and so did his dancing … and it wasn’t pretty.  I had never seen someone doing Michael Jackson’s moonwalk to “The Way You Looked Tonight.”

He kept dancing after the music had ended.

His shirt was untucked, his eyes rolling, and his tie was tied around his head instead of his neck. Everyone was embarrassed.  And no one wanted to get back on the dance floor.

When the bride’s father tried to get him off the dance floor, he was belligerent.  As I said, it got ugly fast.

Alcohol wedding guidelines

When planning your wedding reception, think about how you want to handle alcohol.  As a DJ, I have a lot of experience dealing with highly uncomfortable situations at wedding receptions with out-of-control guests under the influence.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

For your sake and mine, I’ve posted some helpful guidelines above regarding booze, beer, and wine.  Based on my experience, these guidelines will eliminate most problems.  I hope you find them helpful.

Some brides can’t afford an open bar, or don’t want to pay for it, which is perfectly fine.  The guidelines above still apply.  Simply replace ‘open’ bar with ‘cash’ bar.

Queen City DJs offers helpful wedding planning tools for Cincinnati brides. Let us know what alcohol guidelines you’d like for your reception in the “other information” section of the wedding planning form. Be intentional. The purpose of today’s blogpost is to help you to be proactive in your planning efforts.

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The definitive guide to babies at weddings

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Get ready for controversy: babies at weddings.

Your friendships are about to be tested.  If you’re prepared, you can minimize the damage.

I refer, of course, to that timeless issue of whether or not to let your friends bring their babies to your Cincinnati area wedding.

You face two scenarios when it comes to babies at weddings

SCENARIO #1:  The sweet little things alternate between cooing and napping during your ceremony.

SCENARIO #2:  The little monsters scream to high heaven throughout the wedding ceremony.  You have to ask the officiant to repeat the vows a second and a third time before you can hear them over the din.  All of this is captured by your wedding videographer forever, and we haven’t even gotten to the reception yet!

Whew!

Okay … scenario #1 is the likely outcome.  Scenario #2 seldom happens, meaning infrequently or almost never.

But sometimes it does.

Here’s what to do:  you know your friends with babies.  Are they reasonable when it comes to their kids?  If their baby/infant/toddler gets fussy during the ceremony, will they discreetly step out to avoid disrupting your event?  Or are they the type that believes the world revolves them, their needs, their convenience, and their kids, who by the way, can do no wrong?

If you expect scenario #1, invite away, but if  not, don’t.

If in doubt, simply remember that this is your day, not theirs.

Most people do view marriage as a community celebration

Many brides and grooms love inviting families, complete with their kids.  Wonderful.  But you don’t have to.

Some brides recognize unique situations.  For example, if guests make a trek in from out of town, it may be tough for them to find someone to come in for the weekend to watch the kid(s), especially if a mother is still nursing her baby.

If you’re willing to include children for these reasons, you might want to make arrangements for a side room with childcare in case your guests would rather park their kids than tend to them during either the ceremony or reception.

If you make the decision that you do not want children, do so with this understanding:

  1. It is perfectly just, moral, and practical.
  2. You may have a friend/family member ask for an exception.

When sending out invitations, simply address it to the person who is invited:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

or…

Bobbi-Jean Smith & Guest

If kids are welcome, you’ll simply address the invitation as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith & Family.

If babies and kids are not invited, inevitably, your friend, Bobbi-Jean, is going to give you a call with this request:

“Say … you wouldn’t mind if I brought little Clarabelle, would you?”

This is key:  know exactly what you want.  Have a prepared response rehearsed and ready to go.

If you’re willing to make exceptions, then life is simple.  You’ll use Response #1:

RESPONSE #1:  “For you, of course.  Little Clarabelle is such a lovely little doll.  Would you like me to make arrangements for a side room and child care to give you more flexibility during the ceremony and/or reception?”

What if you don’t want babies at your wedding? Say this…

If you really don’t want babies, infants, or children at your ceremony or reception, you’ll want to use something more along the lines of Response #2:

RESPONSE #2:  “You know, we really looked at this closely with our Wedding Planner.  She really encouraged us to keep the event adults only, and we’re taking her advice.  [But she had a great suggestion.  She said if any of our guests wanted to bring kids, we can make arrangements for a side room and provide a list of reputable child care providers for those parents interested in the service.  Would you like me to forward you the list?]”

If you really don’t want to mess with around with kids, only use the first two sentences above and lop off the section in brackets.

If you have a particularly persistent friend or family member, you know, the type who begs:

“Pleeez … couldn’t you make a teeny weeny exception for my sweet little Clarabelle.  She won’t make a peep.  You’ll never know she was there.  Pleeez, pretty pleeeeez”…

… be strong.

Stand your ground.

Calmly and without apology, simply say:

“I understand, Bobbi-Jean, but the answer is no.  We have intentionally planned for an all-adult wedding celebration, and we’re going to stick with our plan.”

You may have a better way to say it.  If yes, think it through and be ready in case you’re put in the uncomfortable situation described above.

Remember, this is YOUR wedding.

Okay, are you ready to sketch out your Cincinnati event? We’ve got the tools right here. Simply complete the contact form, and we’ll provide the logins which give you full access to all of our tools without obligation.

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How to break the ice at a pre-wedding luncheon

By | Wedding planning

The scene is tense.

Families come together for a pre-wedding luncheon.  An old girl friend of the groom is there.  Yikes!  This could get pretty uncomfortable.  Fast.

What to do?  Why it is simple:  break into song!

I post above for your viewing pleasure that memorable scene from “My Best Friend’s Wedding” when Rupert Everett does just that.  He starts singing that golden-oldie from the 60s, “I Say  a Little Prayer for You.”

Before you know it, the whole restaurant is singing along!  Aah … if only life were a musical!

Stress-free Cincinnati wedding planning

Many brides let the process of planning their wedding stress them out.  I get it.  There are a lot of details to get in place.  We can help you with the entertainment. We’ll take the stress right out of the wedding planning so you can start having fun again. You’ll find helpful online planning tools to get you started, beginning with our availability checker.

In the meantime, take a few minutes to watch this very funny scene starring Julia Roberts.  A good laugh always makes the day better … and less stressful.

[Entertainment makes the difference at wedding receptions. Check out Queen City DJ’s online Cincinnati wedding planning forms here.]